A to Z Guide to Thriving in Life

‘C’ is for Conquering Change – tips for overcoming your fears

April 3, 2018
Conquering Change

Conquering Change

Conquering Change is not easy for any of us.  By nature, we like structure, we like feeling comfortable, we like familiarity. Making changes can be daunting and overwhelming and yes, scary! However, in order to thrive in life and live the life we want, it is sometimes necessary to make changes and face the challenges head on.

Do you have changes looming in your life?

Perhaps you care considering:

  • a new career
  • retirement – or as I like to call it ‘The Lifestyle Change’
  • a new relationship
  • moving house
  • dealing with loss

This quote from Jim Rohn resonated with me as I was contemplating how change can affect our mindset.  To me, he is saying that WE ALL HAVE THE CHOICE to live a happier and fulfilled life.  It won’t just happen but we have to make it happen.

Your life does not get better with chance, it gets better by change. – Jim Rohn


If you are facing major changes in your life it is quite normal to feel uneasy and anxious.  I am reminded of my  mother-in-law (MIL), who due to illness and the loss of her husband of 70 years, moved to an aged care home.  My MIL had never wanted this and at 90 years old, living in the same house for over 40 years, the change was going to be monumental. We were all very concerned at how she would cope with such major changes in her life.

Fast forward almost two years and she is a different person who loves life and being involved in all the activities.  Her attitude and acceptance to the changes that were necessary inspired us all.  Yes, she was apprehensive at first but with our encouragement and support and the support of the staff, she has become rejuvenated and happy, which is a wonderful outcome.

If you are facing major changes or want to make some changes in your life, I would like to share some tips with you on making the process less stressful for you.

Tips to Conquering Change rather than Fearing it.

  • Keep an open mind
  • Have a plan
  • Identify your fears and accept it is okay to be afraid
  • Accept that change is part of life
  • Take small steps to effect the changes to build self-confidence
  • Believe in yourself
  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help


Conquering Change


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  • Reply Donna April 3, 2018 at 04:13

    Hi, Sue – This is another great ‘A to Z’ post. I agree that change is inevitable…and seems to happen much more frequently (and quickly) as we age. Just as positively embracing age makes a huge difference, I agree that the same is true with change. Once again, you have offered much to think about!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 3, 2018 at 08:39

      I don’t always practice what I preach Donna, but mostly I do try to implement my strategies to accept Change in a positive way. Thanks for your lovely comment and I enjoyed your Babysitting post. xx

  • Reply Melanie Crouse April 3, 2018 at 06:41

    Hi Sue! I’m loving this A-Z post! I’m nearing my 50s, and am just starting to think about things like this. Thanks for sharing!

    Melanie’s Stories

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 3, 2018 at 08:38

      Thanks Melanie. I’m now 60 so I hope that I can pass on some wisdom or advice that I’ve learned over the last decade. Thanks for stopping by to comment and I notice you are taking part in the AtoZ so I will check out your blog. Have a great day! xx

  • Reply Jenny April 3, 2018 at 11:23

    Having a plan and addressing fears are biggies for me. Thanks for the tips! I’m glad I found you via A to Z!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 3, 2018 at 11:51

      Hi Jenny glad you found me and I’ve just visited and commented on your ‘A’ and ‘B’. Fascinating theme you have selected so see you tomorrow!

  • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au April 3, 2018 at 13:24

    I have always found change to be quite stressful Sue – I resist it to the end, but you know what? EVERY time I have pushed through a change in life and accepted the challenges that go with it, I have grown and moved forward. How boring and stagnant would our lives be if we never experienced new things? It’s all in our attitude and willingness to challenge ourselves isn’t it?

    Leanne | http://www.crestingthehill.com.au
    C for Consider Every Angle

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 4, 2018 at 09:39

      I agree Leanne, I’m not really good at change but I have had quite a few changes throughout my life – I should be an expert by now! You last sentence is spot on – attitude and willingness. xx

  • Reply Jennifer Jones April 3, 2018 at 14:08

    I really had very few changes in my life up until s few years ago. Since then I’ve had to make each one of the changes that you mention so I think it’s made me fairly adaptable. From experience, your tips for coping with change are spot on.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 4, 2018 at 09:37

      Thanks Jennifer. I’ve had quite a bit of change throughout my life so maybe I’ve just become better at adapting to it! x

  • Reply Shirley Corder April 3, 2018 at 16:42

    Great post, Sue. Change is always a challenge – and I often resist it to the bitter end. Then, to my surprise, I quite enjoy it! Care for and Love your Body and Brain!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 4, 2018 at 09:35

      That’s the surprise of Change, Shirley! We resist and then find that it isn’t as bad as we thought and in most cases it is better!

  • Reply Debbie Harris April 3, 2018 at 19:27

    This is great advice Sue! I love the story of your MIL and her change of attitude. It’s great to think about these things and how we’d actually cope. When change was thrust upon me I ended up identifying my fears and accepting that it was OK to be afraid.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 4, 2018 at 09:34

      My MIL has really done a complete 360 Deb and it is wonderful to see her happy and enjoying life. Being afraid is okay we just need to sometimes work out how to overcome the fear. xx

  • Reply Beth Lapin April 3, 2018 at 21:49


    Having reached the mark a few years ago, I find life and its changes challenging and exciting… depending on what they are! I am working on enjoying all of them.


    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 4, 2018 at 09:33

      You have the perfect attitude Beth and that is what it all comes down to really – the right attitude and accepting change rather than fighting it. Enjoyed your post about Class. See you for ‘D’ tomorrow x

  • Reply Heather Erickson April 4, 2018 at 03:40

    Change is something I have struggled with my entire life. Having a plan really does make it easier. Another wonderful post. Thank you 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 4, 2018 at 09:31

      Thanks for visiting Heather and I am enjoying both your post about Boundaries for Carers and also Critical Family Members. Looking forward to your ‘D’ post tomorrow and have a beautiful day xx

  • Reply Doree Weller April 4, 2018 at 07:26

    Great topic! Change is always hard, no matter the situation. I look forward to your topic tomorrow.
    Doree Weller

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 4, 2018 at 09:24

      Thanks Doree, I agree it isn’t easy but once we have made the change life can be so much better. I enjoyed your ‘C’ Books about Children and left a comment. See you tomorrow xx

  • Reply Karen Hume April 4, 2018 at 09:39

    Hi Sue,
    Good post about change. I’m actually one of those strange people who enjoys change because it’s so often associated with personal growth. However, I do appreciate that it is hugely stressful which is why I tend to prefer immersing in a change (kind of like ripping the bandage off fast), rather than incremental change. Still, I’m trying an incremental change right now and it seems to have more staying power than some of the big changes I’ve been involved in. Hmmm. Always more to learn.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 4, 2018 at 10:08

      Hi Karen, I like your attitude towards change as being part of personal growth. Looking at change in a positive way is much more helpful than being dragged kicking and screaming! x

  • Reply Victoria April 4, 2018 at 10:44

    I don’t deal well with change, no one has ever said that I can go with the flow. lol But I do agree that most of the time life gets better with change.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 4, 2018 at 14:00

      Change is difficult Victoria but most of the time it is so worth the fear and maybe pain.

  • Reply Dyanne Dillon April 4, 2018 at 11:31

    But change is HARRRRRD! 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 4, 2018 at 14:01

      I know Dyanne but sometimes wonderful things can happen 🙂

  • Reply Karen April 4, 2018 at 11:32

    Change is always challenging but it is inevitable. I’ve gotten much better with it as I’ve gotten older. I think learning to adapt to is important. Weekends In Maine

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 4, 2018 at 14:02

      Yes I think as we get older and experience life more, we can adapt to change. On the flipside, sometimes I envy the younger generation who seem to take change in their stride!

  • Reply Grammy Dee | Grammy's Grid April 17, 2018 at 21:26

    I am one that does not like change, if things are going good for me then I want them to continue. However, becoming ill and unable to no longer work caused me to have to face change and conquer it. Though not an easy process, I think I have managed considering all of my limitations. Shared x 4 ♥

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 18, 2018 at 11:48

      I don’t think many people do enjoy change Dee but you have done a marvelous job considering your illness. An inspiration to us all!

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