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Bringing ‘Sparkle’ into life and why a ‘Sparkle’ book helps

August 9, 2023

Do you have a Sparkle book? I don’t, but I think I should.

I was chatting to a close friend who I used to run with but haven’t seen for a few months. She rang on the weekend for a ‘catch up’ as she hadn’t heard from me. I explained that for the last couple of months I haven’t been well.

During the conversation, I was saying how it was so easy to feel down when life gets a little tough or our routines are suddenly halted. As I wrote in my post, last week, Maintaining a positive mindset when you need to cancel your calendar is not easy but it can be done. It was during our chat that she mentioned her ‘sparkle book’.

My friend, completely understood where I was at as she had been through a difficult time last year and had a major life change thrust on her when she was unexpectedly made redundant. It came totally out of left field and my friend was left feeling a range of emotions, questioning her ability as well as her self-worth. Wondering why she hadn’t seen it coming and feeling at a loss – at what had happened but also what she was going to do. For a career person, who had consistently given way more than was required it was a blow and one she didn’t think she could recover from.

We chatted about it several times and I suggested that she didn’t do anything but take time out, be kind to herself and after a time, do some things she had always wanted to do but didn’t have the time. Her self-confidence had taken a battering. She was anxious and lost.

When a major change happens in life, we need to stop, evaluate and avoid making any major decisions. We aren’t in the right mindset to make informed decisions and it is so easy to react and make decisions based on emotions. We may also need the help of a professional to talk through our feelings.

What is a ‘sparkle’ book?

Apart from loving the name, I wasn’t actually sure what she meant. I thought it might be a journal with a lovely cover and sparkly pen 🙂 The answer is very simple and a great idea – a sparkle book is where you make note of quotes or memes that you like. You might see something on social media or it might be a quote from Brené Brown, for example. Something that touches you or motivates you at the time.

As my friend suggested, if she is feeling anxious, down or just needs a lift she can open to any page in her Sparkle book and there will be words that will provide comfort, support and positive vibes.

I know there are similar things such as Empowerment Cards or a daily quote on your calendar or books of quotes. However, taking the time to record the quote or thought into your Sparkle book reinforces it in your mind and you can build up a collection that is tailor made for you.

Expanding the use of your Sparkle Book

As I was writing this post, I googled ‘sparkle quotes’ to see if I could find any. No, the quotes you write down don’t have to be about sparkle and glitter although it doesn’t hurt to include some because who doesn’t like a little glitter and shimmer in their life?

Here are some to start you off – 130 Shine Bright Quotes To Inspire You To Sparkle (therandomvibez.com)

I then started getting carried away and thought that the Sparkle book could be expanded to include more than just quotes that bring you joy.

Why not divide it into sections?

I’m listing some suggestions but it’s your Sparkle book so you can include whatever you want.

The idea is that every time you open it at any section or page you instantly find something that makes you feel better and maybe a little ‘sparkly’ as well! If you really are into it you can make sections within sections – but let’s not make it too complicated!

  1. The Quotes Section – which is really the main reason for the book
  2. Sparkly Activities – A section that lists activities that lift your spirits and make you sparkle. Each time you do something that makes you feel happy, sparkly and uplifted, add it to your list for future reference.
  3. Who makes my life sparkle – A section with the names of the people that fill your cup and why they are important to you.
  4. When have I sparkled – Memories and achievements – times in your life that have brought happiness, joy and yes a little sparkle. When you just feel so good.

So, what do you think of the Sparkle book idea? Will you start one or do you already have something similar?

Sue Loncaric

Women Living Well After 50

Living Life Your Way

24 Comments

  • Reply Debbie August 9, 2023 at 08:48

    Oh I love this so much Sue! I heard a word the other day that is something similar, people are looking for ‘glimmer’ moments when they are truly unconditionally happy, like the opposite of ‘triggers’ and that spoke to me as well. Between all of these glimmers and sparkles like is good – I often write down quotes that appeal to me so now I have more things I can add – your list is great. Do you use an actual book or notes on your phone/com puter?

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 10, 2023 at 12:14

      Hi Deb, I’ve seen the ‘glimmer’ post popping up on social media and nearly included it into this post. I will be using a book for my sparkle book and buying a sparkly pen to write with.x

  • Reply Vanessa August 9, 2023 at 09:35

    I’ve used similar things in the past and they can be a helpful reframe when going through a down period. Visual reminders, too!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 10, 2023 at 12:15

      Hi Vanessa, yes there are so many forms but I quite liked the ‘sparkle’ idea. It makes me feel happy. x

  • Reply leannelc August 9, 2023 at 10:29

    This is such a lovely, positive idea Sue – and good on your friend for creating something that helps bring some light into her world. I know exactly what it’s like to lose your job and lose your sparkle. My Pinterest quote boards were hammered during the months following me leaving my toxic job – so many quotes become more meaningful when you’re going through a tough time. I like your idea of adding extra “chapters” to the book too.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 10, 2023 at 12:16

      Hi Leanne, I thought it was a great idea and my friend really uses hers well. It’s something we can put our own spin on and design it the way we want to. I’ve just added some suggestions as a starting point. x

  • Reply Retirement Reflections August 9, 2023 at 10:58

    Hi, Sue – I think that the Sparkle Book (and the potential expansions that you mentioned) is an excellent idea! Thank you for sharing this with us. I hope all is well for you.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 10, 2023 at 12:17

      I quite like the idea, Donna and a Sparkle book makes me smile so it has a positive effect immediately xx

  • Reply Suzanne August 9, 2023 at 11:16

    Brilliant idea. I was at a Altrusa meeting last night and smiled when introduced to a woman who had enough sparkle via clothes and jewellery on to light up the universe (slight exaggeration). Why not, I thought. Even though it’s not my style it obviously made her happy. I might need to get a similar book for those times when I need a boost.

    • Reply Janine August 9, 2023 at 14:04

      This sounds like a wonderful idea. Maybe people could also incorporate a list of things they are grateful for too.
      I’ve seen a similar idea for people with small businesses having a jam jar that they pop ‘thank you’ notes/quotes from pleased clients to help them get through the tough spells.
      Thanks for sharing and spreading some sparkle

      • Reply Sue Loncaric August 10, 2023 at 12:19

        There are many similar ideas Janine. For me, I liked the idea of the word ‘sparkle’. It certainly makes me smile. x

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 10, 2023 at 12:18

      Hi Suzanne I thought it was a great idea and I agree although I hold back on the sequinnes I admire women who dress to please themselves and I’m sure she feels joy wearing and feeling sparkle!

  • Reply marsha57 August 9, 2023 at 12:33

    I love this idea and am definitely going to start one! This last year has not been a good one, and something like this, which is uniquely mine, would be wonderful. Here is a quote I found earlier this year: “Never let anyone treat you like a yellow starburst. You are a pink starburst.” Of course, if you like yellow starbursts (and I do), you might want to change the colors.

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    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 10, 2023 at 12:19

      Sending hugs to you Marsha and I hope the post helps. Love your quote about starburst and yes, I’m a pink starburst for sure. Take care xx

  • Reply patwdoyle11 August 10, 2023 at 05:38

    Sue, You made me realize I had a book like this when I was younger! I didn’t call it a Sparkle book, but I copied into it poems and quotes I read. This was back before computers and Pinterest! Now, I have a Pinterest board that I copy quotes to… but it’s really not the same. I also have my “Jolts of Joy” list… when I’m feeling down, I do pull that list out and pick something from it. Different idea but similar intent. I do love your Sparkle quotes… and yep, copied a couple to my Pinterest board 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 10, 2023 at 12:20

      Hi Pat, I’ve not really kept anything like this but the idea appeals to me, especially designing it for my needs. Besides, Sparkle just makes you smile when you read the word. x

  • Reply Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid August 10, 2023 at 15:57

    What a totally fabulous idea! Everyone needs a bit of sparkle – just hearing the word makes me smile 🙂

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 15, 2023 at 09:32

      I smile when I think about Sparkle, too! It is such a joyful word. x

  • Reply Min Write of the Middle August 10, 2023 at 16:25

    Hi Sue, I absolutely LOVE your friend’s sparkle book idea and the name too! I guess the end of my corporate experience and identify was a similar situation to hers. My whole identity was tied up in my job and I was thrust into a new path of finding myself all over again which has been interesting and unearthed many aspects of myself I didn’t know! Life continues to throw curveballs at me, so perhaps it’s time I put together my own little sparkle book. Really hope you’re feeling healthier and well again now. xo

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 15, 2023 at 09:33

      Hi Min, I think there are many women who feel the same way when they choose or are forced to leave their career. It is hard to re-establish your new identity after giving to the job and career for so long. I love the idea of a Sparkle Book and wanted to share it with others. x

  • Reply Denyse Whelan Blogs To Connect. My Link Up is Wed-Thu from Australia. August 10, 2023 at 16:26

    What a lovely way to keep reminding ourselves of all the ‘good’ in our lives. Those kinds of things often get left behind when we are both challenged and unsure of what’s next. I admit that my daily calm meditation often has a quote I find helpful, and I save them as a photo. Just recently, I printed a few off, and added them to my art journals. I have a few of these on the go at once, and with paint, and markers at the ready I guess my art journals help with my ‘sparkle’ too. Thank you for linking up this week for WWandPics on Denyse Whelan Blogs to Connect. Next week, I hope you join in again too, and be there to read my “C” for change & connection post! Warm wishes, Denyse.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 15, 2023 at 09:35

      You have lots of ‘sparkle’ resources Denyse. I thought it was a wonderful idea and wanted to share on the blog so others could benefit. x

  • Reply Christie Hawkes August 13, 2023 at 01:24

    I love the idea of a sparkle book. I have a list of activities that pick me up. I call it Jolts of Joy. And I have my 3 good things journal that serves as a reminder of the things that made me smile each day. But I do like the idea of consolidating and organizing things into a sparkle book, adding the joy-inspiring quotes, of course. Thanks for sharing this lovely idea with us!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric August 15, 2023 at 09:37

      I think we all have our own version of a Sparkle book, Christie but I did love the name. I thought about it and expanded on what my friend has – we can all put our own individual spin on it depending on what we need at any given time. x

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