Over 50s Lifestyle Vlogcast

Becoming your own best friend

June 26, 2020
Becoming your own best friend

Why do we find it difficult to treat ourselves with the same kindness that we show others?

Kindness is something that we all need in our lives especially in the world today, with so much anger, stress and anxiety? Last week in the Women Living Well After 50 Facebook Group, the focus for the week was Kindness.  Showing kindness not only to others but more importantly ourselves.

Self-kindness is a topic that resonated with the group as many of us find it difficult to be kind to ourselves. The expectations we place on ourselves, seem to be much higher than those we place on others. Why is this?

In Episode 2 of Conversations with Women Living Well After 50 series, my guest is Leanne from Cresting the Hill joins me in a Facebook Live conversation to discuss self-worth, self-kindness, letting go of the guilt and becoming our own best friend.

Do you find you are harder on yourself than others? Isn’t it time to show yourself some kindness today?

Don’t forget to visit Leanne and also I’d love you to subscribe to the YouTube channel for weekly conversations.

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  • Reply Retirement Reflections June 26, 2020 at 11:20

    Hi, Sue and Leanne – This is such a great video, with so many true gems. Self-respect and self-acceptance are incredibly important and so often overlooked by women. Thank you for breaking this down for us and reminding us that we are not alone, and it’s never to late to take care of ourselves — unapologetically!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 29, 2020 at 05:10

      Thanks Donna, I hope other Women Over 50 especially, will take on board some of the suggestions in the video to learn that showing ourselves kindness is important to our health and well-being.x

  • Reply Michele Morin June 26, 2020 at 22:19

    I love how you are branching out into another medium, Sue! Always learning and growing!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 29, 2020 at 05:11

      Thank you Michele. Learning and growing is important especially as we age #nevertooold. xx

  • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au June 27, 2020 at 22:48

    Hi Sue – thanks for challenging me to get out of my comfort zone and join you on FB Live (and now youtube!) It was a great conversation and I really enjoyed tossing around ideas with you about how we can be kinder to ourselves – a process I’m still working on in my own personal journey.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric June 29, 2020 at 05:12

      You did so well, Leanne which I knew you would. It is amazing how we don’t feel the self-confidence and potential that others see in us.

      • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au July 1, 2020 at 15:01

        Yes, we all need to see ourselves through the eyes of others more often! Back for #MLSTL and thanks for being my inspiration and support in all things blogging and Midlife xx

        • Reply Sue Loncaric July 3, 2020 at 13:19

          Thanks Leanne, I think we inspire each other and it was great to have you as my first guest. x

  • Reply Erica/Erika June 30, 2020 at 11:06

    Hi Sue, I had briefly mentioned to Leanne on her blog site how the both of you look beautiful. You come across very friendly, genuine and approachable. Just the way you are in real life. 💕 Great topics on being kind to ourselves and the words we may use. One good example was “allowed.” I agree with Donna about reminding us we are not alone. I look forward to connecting this week. xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 3, 2020 at 13:25

      Hi Erica! Thank you for your compliment. I want the series to feel like we are having a conversation over a cuppa and that is relaxed but informative. It is always a joy to connect with you. xx

  • Reply Debbie Harris June 30, 2020 at 21:21

    Hi Sue and Leanne, you both spoke so well it was like having a chat with two great friends! That pink on you Sue is beautiful and Leanne came over so confident and com posed with wisdom to share! Well done to you both x

    • Reply Debbie Harris July 1, 2020 at 09:56

      Sharing for #mlstl

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 3, 2020 at 13:13

      Thanks Deb and yes I like the jumper I was wearing as it has a cowl neckline for added detail. I usually wear bright pink but this more subtle shade looked quite nice as well. Leanne did a great job and was so confident even though she had said she was nervous, she came through with flying colours. x

  • Reply Lydia C. Lee July 1, 2020 at 07:15

    Sounds interesting – will try to get to it later today. And yes, it’s funny how we extend kindness to others but are much harder on ourselves…#MLSTL

  • Reply Natalie July 1, 2020 at 07:33

    Hi Sue, Great interview with Leanne. It’s my first time hearing Leanne’s voice and it was good to hear your voice again. Thanks for sharing your takes on how to become your own best friend. Have a wonderful week! #MLSTL

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 3, 2020 at 13:16

      Hi Natalie, isn’t it wonderful to actually hear someone’s voice when you’ve known them through their blog for some time. Thanks for listening and glad you enjoyed the video. xx

  • Reply Christina Henry July 1, 2020 at 09:21

    I watched this a few days ago and really enjoyed it. I think it’s going to be a great series. I love the message this week too of showing ourselves kindness. I’m really hard on myself so it’s something I need to stop! Regards Christina

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 3, 2020 at 13:17

      thanks Christina for the feedback and glad you enjoyed the topic We are too hard on ourselves aren’t we? Sometimes we need to cut ourselves some slack and drop the bar a little. xx

  • Reply Jennifer Jones July 1, 2020 at 12:34

    Hi Sue I enjoyed listening to you and Leanne. I agree with all you said. I’m trying not to be too critical of myself at the moment #MLSTL

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 3, 2020 at 13:19

      Thanks Jen and I’m glad you are trying not to be critical of yourself. I know we all fall into the trap but we do need to just be more mindful of when we need some kindness. x

  • Reply Joanne Tracey July 1, 2020 at 16:11

    I really loved listening to you two. I know I’ve said it before, but I’m so in awe of you doing this – and it all looks and sounds so natural. It was interesting that Leanne brought up the burnt chop syndrome because I was only talking about this the other day.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 3, 2020 at 13:20

      Thank you so much for the lovely feedback Jo. I was very happy with the result and it felt just like having a chat over a cuppa. I hadn’t heard of the burnt chop syndrome before so found that an interesting analogy. x

  • Reply Samantha July 1, 2020 at 17:33

    Love how you are exploring so many ways to reach women Sue. Self care is something I only started to put into practice later in my life, when my children had flown the nest and I said good bye to a very stressful job. Since giving myself a ‘self care’ slot each day I have become a much calmer person and regret not having done it sooner, I’m sure I would’ve coped better during that stressful time in my life. The thing I have to concentrate on more, I know, is self worth. I need to visit your blog more Sue, you do an amazing job of sending the right messages to people. #MLSTL

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 3, 2020 at 13:21

      Thank you Sam. I’m feeling very excited and enthusiastic about my new projects and I think that is the main thing isn’t it? I doing it for me and hoping that I can take others along with me as we all learn and grow. xx

  • Reply Enda Sheppard July 1, 2020 at 18:37

    Self-kindness is a nice way of putting it … sounds more achievable, somehow!! #MLSTL

  • Reply Enda Sheppard July 1, 2020 at 18:39

    PS Well done with the video departure. This was a lovely, natural presentation, really indeed like a chat between friends #MLSTL

  • Reply Nancy Andres July 2, 2020 at 06:08

    Hi Leanne and Sue, Great conversation about becoming your own best friend. Funny the synchronicity of this post and mine at the #MLSTL party. My suggestions are in “Amazing Affirmations and Tips for Self-validation.” I’ll share on SM and hugs to you both.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 3, 2020 at 13:22

      Thanks for sharing Nancy and yes we are on the same wavelength for sure. Hugs back to you. x

  • Reply Christie Hawkes July 2, 2020 at 10:20

    Kindness is needed now more than ever, Sue. I have gotten better at being kind to myself over the years, but it took a conscious effort. I loved the discussion between the two of you. It was fun to see Leanne and hear her voice. I’ve enjoyed watching you on video over the past year, but this was my first time to see Leanne in action. #MLSTL

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 3, 2020 at 13:23

      It does require a conscious effort, doesn’t it Christie. I’m glad to hear that you are achieving more self-kindness because sometimes it is difficult to change thought patterns that have developed over the years. x

  • Reply Denyse Whelan July 2, 2020 at 16:57

    That is a great chat with you both and I appreciated being a viewer. Well-done to you both. Self-kindness is something that I am actually remembering more but it takes a lot to overcome the habits of self-criticism for decades.
    Wishing you well in your ventures here Sue. It’s a great space you are making for women of all ages!

    Thank you. Denyse #mlstl

    • Reply Sue Loncaric July 3, 2020 at 13:10

      Thanks Denyse, I think that self-kindness is something that we need to make a priority. As you say though it takes a lot to overcome thought patterns that have taken many years to develop x

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