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Be a Woman of Influence – Be a Role Model

March 9, 2016
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This week was International Women’s Day a day to celebrate the achievements of women with our sisterhood.  I was listening to a radio program who asked the question “Which Woman has had the most influence in your life?”  They were then going to interview ‘Women of Influence’ on the program.

Now I suppose we can all answer that question of who has influenced us  – mother, friend, colleague, teacher etc, etc.

However I would like to pose a different question to all of us – two questions in fact.

Are YOU a Woman of Influence?

Are YOU a Role Model for your children and grandchildren or others?

Most of us would not suggest that we are women of influence.  Usually we feel this term is related to women who have achieved something beyond the norm and are leading the way for others.  However, we are ALL WOMEN OF INFLUENCE in our own way.

Sure I’m not a CEO or a high achiever or a celebrity in the public eye, however I still have the capacity to influence others and SO DO YOU!

Each of us has a responsibility to be a POSITIVE role model especially for our children and grandchildren.  We take on this responsibility when we have children, however, it doesn’t stop there.  Our grandchildren also need positive role models in their lives and what greater gift can you give than to teach them a strong moral code and to encourage them to follow their dreams.

Being a Woman of Influence doesn’t stop with the inner family circle, you can lead by example and influence others by the way you live your life – it is as simple as that.  You can influence just by being YOU!

My mother was a wonderful influence on all who knew her.  She never reached the dizzy heights of the business world and was a ‘stay-at-home’ mum.  Her influence was the way she lived her life every day.

When she was diagnosed with breast cancer and suffered for 10 years she never once complained, she had a strong faith which sustained her and gave her strength to keep going.

My mother was an outstanding, gentle and kind woman who was always more concerned about others than herself.  She certainly was a positive influence and perfect role model for me.  No celebrity just my beautiful Mum.


  • Are you living life to the full or are you just existing and being pulled down by negativity?
  • Are you displaying a compassionate, loving nature?
  • Do you have a ’cause’ you are passionate about.

There are so many ways you can be a positive influence on others – even if we aren’t perfect. 

I try to encourage my family and friends to lead a healthy and happy lifestyle.  That means leading by example and showing them how to achieve this by exercising, eating a healthy diet and living a BALANCED life.  BUT, I’m just me – no celebrity status – just me and when someone tells me I have inspired them I feel humbled but fantastic because I’ve proven that no matter who we are we can inspire others and that is a great feeling!


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Of course we all make mistakes in life – no one is perfect (sorry to shock you!) –  but that is what makes us who we are and perfect to be role models.  We can use our life experiences to influence others.

If you aren’t being a positive role model – why not?

It is all about our ATTITUDE!  When we live in a positive mindset it becomes contagious and we can actually encourage and influence others to live a positive, healthy and happy life.

When we try to have a positive mindset we ACTUALLY START TO FEEL POSITIVE and UPLIFTED ourselves so that is a double whammy!

So what do you say?


My answer is YES YOU ARE so let her shine through.

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  • Reply Toni Pike March 10, 2016 at 06:41

    A great article Sue – we hear about “influencers” these days, people with a strong online and media presence – but it’s wonderful to read your ideas about how each one of us, in our own circle, is an influencer. It was lovely to hear about your Mum, but so sad that she suffered for so many years. She would be so proud of you.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 10, 2016 at 07:01

      Thank you Toni for you lovely words you always make me feel good. You have inspired so many by following your dream and writing a book. Have a lovely day my friend.

  • Reply laura dove March 11, 2016 at 03:55

    I love this! It is so important to be aware that we may be influencing those around us without knowing it. I try very hard to be a strong female role model for my children but also for friends and family too. Thanks for sharing. #mg

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 12, 2016 at 07:39

      Hi Laura, I really only started to think about it since starting my blog when I retired. I realised I didn’t want to give up on life just because I had given up work so I decided to start the blog to encourage others in midlife and beyond to make the most of what life has to offer. Thank you for stopping by to comment and have a lovely weekend.

  • Reply Katie Jenkins March 11, 2016 at 13:35

    I love, love, LOVE this post, Sue! You and your words are such an inspiration. I loved it so much, I had to read a second time.

    What a great thing to remind us of. Attitude is so important. I honestly believe how we think, feel and act affects our health and well-being. And yes, it’s easier said than done sometimes, but we can always make an effort.

    I’m sharing this on my social media outlets. Such a refreshing message!

    Also, I wanted to thank you very much for reading and commenting on my post at the Blogger’s Pit Stop last week. I would’ve expressed my gratitude sooner, but I was away from my blog for a few days and I didn’t know I had a couple comments pending! So thank you, Sue!!! That was very kind:-)

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 12, 2016 at 07:41

      Hi Katie! Thank you for stopping by and I’m so pleased you loved my post and that you read it a second time – WOW! You have made my day. Attitude plays such an important part in all that we do in life. I really enjoyed your post and will be checking out more of your website. Have a great week and hopefully you will visit again.

  • Reply Leanne@crestingthehill March 11, 2016 at 15:03

    I think a positive attitude and mindset are the key to inspiring others. Nobody likes to around a person who is like a grey cloud. Like attracts like and it inspires others to lift their game – it has certainly had an impact on me since I started hanging out with all you lovely blogging ladies!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 12, 2016 at 07:43

      That is so true Leanne – attitude and mindset can make or break us. Blogging has certainly been a positive experience for both of us I think and I made a new friend in you as a bonus! Have a great week Leanne!

  • Reply Kathleen March 11, 2016 at 20:30

    Thanks Sue for being a positive influence, I am sure your mum was proud of you as she encouraged you by example.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 12, 2016 at 07:43

      Oh thank you Kathleen. I miss my mum still – 29 years later but deep down I think she would be proud of me. Thanks for stopping by and have a great week!

  • Reply Jodie filogomo March 12, 2016 at 00:16

    Amen!!! I was just speaking to a room of older women earlier this week, and explaining that even how one dresses can help be an inspiration to the younger generations….to show that getting older is a good thing (not something to be ashamed of)! As older women, we have such great life experiences and it’s good to share these with others!!
    Great post!! jodie

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 12, 2016 at 07:46

      Hi Jodie! It is great to hear from other like minded women who feel that just because we have reached midlife it doesn’t mean life ends. We just need to keep spreading the word. Have a great weekend and thanks for stopping by.

  • Reply Michele March 12, 2016 at 04:57

    This is a wonderful post. Too often we think of influencers as the rich and famous. Of course we can all be influencers in our own way! I am a mentor to many young teachers in addition to being a mom, daughter, sister, etc. We also have influence as bloggers!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 12, 2016 at 07:50

      Oh thank you Michele and I agree that we perceive influencers to be famous but there are my people who influence each day in their own way. Good point – we do influence as bloggers!! Thanks for stopping by and have a great week!

  • Reply Monica Bruno March 12, 2016 at 09:48

    You are a great influential woman, Sue! For me, my grandmother was the most influential woman in my life. She never had a lot of money and lived very modestly, but she was the happiest person I know. I try to be a positive person and a good influence, I hope I can be at least half the woman she was to me.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 13, 2016 at 12:57

      Thank you Monica! What a lovely relationship you had with your grandmother. I never knew mine as they had all passed away before I was born. I think the grandparent/grandchild is a very special relationship. You are a great, strong woman who is certainly a positive influence on all who know you. xx

  • Reply Rosemond March 13, 2016 at 02:13

    We all do have the power to be influencers and yes not only if we are CEO’s or celebs. I think that we can all hold each other up and serve as role models. I agree that it is all about lifting each other up. Even when we don’t know that we are doing it!

  • Reply Mackenzie Glanville March 13, 2016 at 14:01

    I thought for the longest time I was ‘nothing’ I really believed I had next to nothing to offer anyone. It took a huge journey for me to begin to like myself, and now I can answer yes, I am a woman of influence. Thanks Sue for not only linking up but just for being the amazing women you are, you bring such a gift to my life xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 14, 2016 at 08:39

      Oh thank you Mackenzie for your lovely words of encouragement. We all have so much to offer if we can just realise our potential. Thanks for stopping by and have a lovely week.

  • Reply Life Loving March 14, 2016 at 01:11

    I really hope I am a woman of influence. Both at work and in my personal life. I do strive to do the best for me and others around me and I think my positivity rubs off on others. I also want to be the kind of person that can be influence by others (in a good way) and that will listen to others’ advice and opinions. I think that’s a good balance.

    Sally @ Life Loving

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 14, 2016 at 08:40

      I’m sure you are a wonderful, positive influence on others Sally. All we can do is try to be the best we can be. Positivity is contagious and it makes life so much better. Thanks for stopping by and see you at next week’s link up.

  • Reply Margaretha (Equine Guided MD) March 14, 2016 at 17:47

    One does not have to be perfect to be a role model. On the contrary, not being perfect makes one a more believable role model.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 15, 2016 at 14:38

      Exactly Margaretha, none of us is perfect but it is the way we handle and learn from our mistakes that makes us role models. Thanks for stopping by to comment and joining the party.

  • Reply Nikki Frank-Hamilton March 16, 2016 at 01:51

    I love this Sue! We are all special in our own way, if we were all the same the world would be a one-trick pony! I love that we need to stop comparing ourselves to others, find our talent and use it to benefit ourselves and others!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 16, 2016 at 12:42

      Thanks Nikki! Yes we are all unique and we all have something to offer. Sometimes though we just need a little prod to realise our potential. Have a lovely week!

  • Reply yvonne March 17, 2016 at 06:33

    What a fantastic, inspiring and uplifting post. Thank you, you have made my day 🙂 Just popping in from the #overthemoon link party

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 18, 2016 at 05:17

      Oh how lovely of you Yvonne! It makes me happy to think that I have brought some sunshine into a person’s day. Thanks for stopping by and I hope you visit again

  • Reply Wendy March 19, 2016 at 06:28

    Sue, I wish I could reach across several oceans and hug you right now! This may be my favorite post you have written (and I love them all!). I saw this post pop up last week, but didn’t have time to read and comment then. It has stayed on my mind, so I came over looking for it today, and I am so glad I did. I wish we all realized early in life how much we influence those around us, whether we intend to or not. If we understood that, what would we do differently? Just this week, I had an the incredible gift of seeing how I had been a positive influence in the lives of several teenage girls over the past few years, and I didn’t even know it (okay, I may be a little teary writing this…). That was such a humbling realization.

    And, Sue, YOU are a woman of influence! Thank you for your influence on me!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 19, 2016 at 15:47

      Oh Wendy you made me teary reading your beautiful words and you don’t realise how much I appreciate them. We all doubt ourselves and knowing that my post has affected you this way has made my day. Isn’t it a wonderful feeling to know you have had a positive influence on others? Thank you for your friendship, I’m so pleased I met you. xxx

  • Reply Cindy Norris March 20, 2016 at 00:47


    I just turned fifty and am finding my second act which I am blogging about. I love what you do here, particularly talking from the perspective of one in her 50’s. There are enough 30 somethings in the blogging world which I find hard to connect with. I would love to join next weeks link party. I will be subscribing to your blog. Keep up the good work!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 22, 2016 at 07:47

      Congratulations on turning 50 Cindy! You are at a wonderful stage of life. I’m so pleased you found my blog and I agree there are lots of mommy blogs out there so we need to make our voices heard! I’m going to check out your blog now. Have a great week.

  • Reply Stacey March 24, 2016 at 05:16

    Beautiful! This is such an important message.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 24, 2016 at 06:21

      Thank you Stacey and you have a beautiful day!

  • Reply Reba Linker March 24, 2016 at 07:37

    I love this post, Sue. It is so loving, and such an important message about how we each have influence in our own lives – it is not measured by outer metrics, such as job, or paycheck, etc. Your mum was certainly a woman of influence, and so are you! xo, Reba

    • Reply Sue Loncaric March 24, 2016 at 09:24

      Thank you so much Reba for stopping by to comment. I’m so pleased you enjoyed my post and I wish you a lovely day xx

  • Reply Toni MccCloe April 1, 2016 at 06:56

    That was lovely. It’s nice to believe in yourself as a women of influence – Personally I think all mothers are CEO’s.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 1, 2016 at 07:15

      Thank you Toni! You are right that all mothers are CEO’s we certainly have multi-tasking down pat. Thanks for stopping by to comment and I look forward to getting to know you more.

  • Reply Cathy Sikorski April 1, 2016 at 07:05

    Yes, I believe I am a woman of influence. My children have seen me be a professional, a caregiver, a friend, a daughter and a mom. I cringe to write this like many of us do, to ‘toot my own horn’. That’s the problem , isn’t it? What’s wrong with saying, “I’m doing a damn fine job!!” So I’m saying it and saying it proudly. Thanks for the forum!!1

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 1, 2016 at 07:16

      Of course your are Cathy and I’m so glad you ‘tooted your own horn’. Be proud of your achievements and tell the world! Have a great day!

  • Reply Helene Cohen Bludman April 1, 2016 at 07:22

    One of the greatest gifts we can give our children is a moral compass, and the best way to do that is to talk the talk and walk the walk. Teaching by example is the only way!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 1, 2016 at 11:01

      Exactly Helene! I am so mindful now with my grandson who is 2 – I’m trying to set a healthy and fit example for living and he is teaching me to appreciate the simple things in life.

    • Reply Barbara Kuhlman April 5, 2016 at 12:07

      Being honest about who you are and what you have accomplished in your life is key. You can’t fool your children!

      • Reply Sue Loncaric April 5, 2016 at 16:31

        That is so true Barbara! Thanks for stopping by and have a great week!

  • Reply Cathy Lawdanski April 1, 2016 at 09:05

    You certainly are a woman of influence, Sue. And such a positive role model. And your mother sounds like she was a lovely example for you.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 1, 2016 at 11:02

      Oh Cathy how lovely of you to say – you have made my day! We don’t realise our strengths that others see in us. Yes, my mother was a beautiful soul and I still miss her after 29 years.

  • Reply Carol Cassara April 1, 2016 at 09:58

    It IS important that we take care to realize that we are influencing a younger generation by everything we do. They see everything.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 1, 2016 at 11:02

      I know Carol. I am very mindful now that I have a grandson. He brings me such joy and I want to be a positive influence on his life.

  • Reply Nancy April 1, 2016 at 14:27

    I have tried to be a worthy role model for my daughter. I became a political activist when I saw the world heading in a direction that could very well harm her. I have given her unconditional love that she knows will always be there as long as I breathe. I cared for my own mother in her home as she transitioned from this world although it would have been much easier to take another course of action. My daughter was quite moved by this. I do try. It is all we can do.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 1, 2016 at 15:20

      That is great Nancy – there should be more women like you! I’m sure your daughter and your mother would be very proud of you. Thank you for stopping by to share your thoughts and have a lovely weekend.

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