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8 things I Learned About Myself This Year

December 11, 2015
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finding meWhen I read the writing prompts in #FridayReflections, the one that stood out to me was “Reflect back on 2015 – the highs and lows, the good and the not so good, the surprises and changes.”

This year has been a roller coaster ride with many highs and fortunately not too many lows but I’ve made it through and feel stronger and happier than ever.

I started the year feeling a little lost.  We had returned from a great holiday in Quebec and New York late last year and after our Christmas festivities, I was at a loose end.  Retirement was not really my ‘cup of tea’ or the retirement I was experiencing wasn’t.

Let’s start with the Highs

  • I started a blog to encourage other women experiencing midlife to ride the wave of midlife with me.  I’ve met some wonderful people through my blog and I’m happy to report that a survey I did showed that most of us are happy to have reached midlife and looking forward to the ride.
  • We purchased our future home on the Gold Coast which we will eventually retire to, but can enjoy a few days each week now.  We have our life back and are enjoying each other with quality time.
  • I spent each Tuesday with my darling Grandson, Ethan and have developed a beautiful relationship with him. I am learning to see the simple pleasures of life through his eyes.
  • I started to find some balance in my life – which is something I’m always preaching about.
  • I stayed fit, healthy and ran a 2 half marathons
  • I attended my 40 year high school reunion and made new friends with women I had hardly known at school.

Now I need to face the Lows

I was fortunate that there were really only two lows in my life this year but I learned from these experiences.

  • Trying to adjust to this new world of ‘Retirement’ was a low.  It took me all of last year and part of this year to really feel comfortable with life.  I had felt lost and that is one of the reasons I started the blog to help others.
  • Firstly the loss of a very dear friend and then a few weeks later the death of my brother.  Both were struck down with the big ‘C’ and I still can’t believe they have gone.  Some life lessons here on living each day and appreciating life.

So what did I learn reflecting on this year, 2015

I Can Conquer Self Doubt

I took a deep breath and started a blog which I had always wanted to do but was too scared to try.  What would people think?  Maybe no one would read it?  Well I’m getting closer to my first anniversary and I’ve realised that I can do it!  I’ve made many friends through blogging and it has given me the interest and outlet that I needed in my life to give me purpose.

I learned to feel the grief and then move forward

Grief unfortunately is a part of life and everyone has a unique experience.  We need to take time out to feel the grief and then slowly move forward in a positive way

I learned to appreciate who I am

Writing the blog has given me confidence and helped me to learn who I am and what I like about myself.  I have recently read the  28 Day Creative Self Love Book and am slowing realising that I’m not that bad after all and I still have a lot to give.

I learned to Appreciate Life

Life is so precious and it can be taken from us at any moment.  I haven’t lost anyone close to me for 30 years so this year’s losses have really brought home to me how precious life is.

I learned to FLY

Life is for Living and I’ve decided to grab it with both hands and fly.

I learned that Change is GOOD

Most of us fear change but really if we look at it positively it is good for us.  Change encourages us to grow and adapt and to add to the richness of our lives.

I learned to be Kind to Me

I learned to accept who I am and that although I’m not perfect, I’m a good person.  I learned not to be so hard on myself and to be kind to me and nurture myself more.

I've learned to ride the wave of midlife with positivity, fun & laughterClick To Tweet

What I need to work on….

  • Taking my own advice and learning to say ‘NO’ – this is still difficult for me but I keep trying
  • Finding balance in my life – I’m not quite there yet, just ask my darling husband!

Life is moving on

What are your highs and lows this year? What will you work on to improve your life next year?Click To Tweet

Let’s Keep Sizzling!

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29 Comments

  • Reply Mackenzie Glanville December 11, 2015 at 12:07

    I have shared your tweets and thank you for linking up with Friday Reflections, your support with our linky this year has encouraged us to keep going with it! Your blogs always inspire me, and I am so glad you took the plunge this year. I, like you, was scared to begin, but it has enriched my life and I am so glad we both faced our fear. So sorry for your loses this year, but I am so glad you are learning to embrace your life more fully! Much love xx

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 11, 2015 at 12:28

      You are so good Mackenzie and an inspiration to my writing. I’m so happy I took the plunge too even though it can be a roller coaster ride. I’m looking forward to an exciting 2016 but before then I have to enjoy Christmas – I just love this time of year. x

  • Reply Leanne@crestingthehill December 11, 2015 at 13:17

    Hi Sue – I can’t believe how similar our 2015 experiences have been (except for the dying and the running!) Your friendship and encouragement has been one of the highlights of my year – thanks so much and I’m looking forward to what we will fly towards in 2016!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 11, 2015 at 13:24

      I know Leanne! Perhaps we were sisters in another life LOL:) I’m glad we have developed our friendship and am sure we will both have a wonderful 2016 encouraging and supporting each other!

  • Reply Debbie December 11, 2015 at 20:58

    I think that many of us went through really intense experiences throughout 2015, Sue.
    I’m so happy I had the chance to meet you and have you in my journey.
    Have a beautiful day!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 13, 2015 at 06:56

      Oh I’m so happy to have met you Debbie and would like to be in contact more in 2016. You are an inspiration and look forward to our chats in the future. Have a great day!

  • Reply Tracey Cross December 12, 2015 at 07:06

    Sue this was so encouraging and inspirational to read. Really enjoyed reading about your year and how you tackled the lows and made the most of the highs. Thank you!!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 13, 2015 at 06:57

      How lovely of you to say Tracey! I’m so pleased you felt encouraged and inspired. I’m very fortunate not to have too many lows but we can’t have highs all the time, that is life. It is how we handle both the highs and lows that matters. Have a lovely day and thank you for stopping by to comment. 🙂

  • Reply Terri Webster Schrandt December 12, 2015 at 09:55

    Sue, I am very grateful that I found you as a blogger and now consider you, not only a friend, but a kindred spirit. I loved this post and you nailed the sentiment we all share as midlife women. Congrats on the success of your blog and we shall ride these waves into the New Year!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 13, 2015 at 06:59

      Oh thank you for your lovely words Terri and I’m pleased that you feel this way about our friendship. I love your posts and yes feel we are kindred spirits. I’d love to be in touch with you more in 2016. Have a beautiful Christmas and yes we shall ride the waves in the New Year!

  • Reply Janine December 12, 2015 at 13:26

    You’ve had such a hard year and yet you have done so exceptionally well with everything, including your blog and the community you are building. Wishing you the best for 2016!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 13, 2015 at 07:02

      Hi Janine! I suppose my year hasn’t been as bad as others – we all have our ups and downs. Thank you for your lovely words of encouragement and I just love joining you at #FridayReflections.

  • Reply Ericka @ A Quiet Girl's Musings... December 12, 2015 at 22:19

    I know in my experience that with every “change of course,” regardless of whether the change is desired or not, there is an adjustment period – transitioning from college student to working adult, going from single to married, etc. I imagine retirement would be the same way. It sounds as if you are on your way to figuring out this new chapter in your life, so that is what’s most important.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 13, 2015 at 07:03

      Hi Ericka! Thanks for stopping by to comment. You are so right – we experience many changes in our lifetime. I found it hard to adjust to retirement but now through my blog I’ve found the answer. Have a lovely day and hope you visit again.

  • Reply Marie December 14, 2015 at 23:28

    Writing is healing. And congrats on your blogaversary!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 15, 2015 at 12:16

      thank you Marie. I’ve only started this year and I’m slowly learning about myself. Have a lovely day!

  • Reply gigi December 19, 2015 at 20:38

    I hope you have a fantastic new year Sue! I’ll be working on my blogging, my photography, baking, glasswork, walking and slogging (slow jogging), eating better and exercising more!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 20, 2015 at 09:45

      What a fabulous set of goals you have already for 2016! I know you will achieve them and I love the term ‘slogging’ I might pinch that and use it somewhere. Have a wonderful Christmas and a fabulous new year Gigi! It has been a pleasure connecting with you and I hope to chat more often in 2016. xx

  • Reply Mum in Brum December 21, 2015 at 20:42

    What an inspiring post. It must be so difficult to retire and for your whole life to suddenly change so much. And sadly you’ve had to deal with a lot of grief on top of that so it sounds like it’s been a difficult year for you. I’m so glad that you’ve found an outlet through your blogging and well done you for staying positive – two half marathons?! Now you’re just making me feel bad! 🙂 Wishing you a great 2016. Visiting from #WAYWOW

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 22, 2015 at 06:54

      Hello! thank you for stopping by to comment. Yes there have been some major changes in the last few years but blogging has certainly helped. Like everyone I have my ‘down’ moments but life is too short to dwell and we have to make the most of it don’t we? Have a lovely Christmas and New Year and again thanks for stopping by. x

  • Reply Nikki Frank-Hamilton December 24, 2015 at 11:57

    Sue, you so inspire me, I love seeing your images on Facebook, they are so gorgeous, especially from way up high, I love the coast and the city-scape. I’m so happy that you are able to enjoy this, keep the pictures coming, I’m enjoying this too.

    How cool that you have taken control of your life, doing what you want to do. I hope that I’m able to do more of that in the future, when the day comes I’m not long for this earth I want to know that I did everything that I really yearned to do and experience! I love your posts, they inspire me!!!

    I wish you the best for 2016! Keep flying my friend, it suits you.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 25, 2015 at 14:16

      Oh what beautiful words Nikki! I am honoured that you feel inspired by my world and I look forward to sharing our experiences in 2016! I’ll certainly keep the pictures coming and I know I am so lucky to have a home by the sea. Let’s ride the wave together. xx

  • Reply Jennifer December 27, 2015 at 04:32

    Although I am not at retirement age, I still find your story inspiring. Once I turned 30 it marked a period of creativity. In my younger years I felt so insecure. I’m at the point now that although I love blogging and would love to inspire others, I am in love with the idea of learning new things and meeting new people. Thanks for sharing.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric December 28, 2015 at 10:02

      Hi Jennifer, you are at a great time of life so enjoy! We should never lose the desire to keep learning and meeting new people. Thank you for stopping b to comment and good luck with your blog – I love the name.

  • Reply Debbie January 3, 2016 at 20:41

    I think that saying 2015 was a roller-coaster to me is an understatement. 😛
    But everything happens for a reason and while there’s lots I still need to learn, I’m getting there too.
    I’m so thankful I had the chance to meet people like you, Sue.
    Wishing you tons of success in 2016 and beyond!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 3, 2016 at 20:49

      Its been great meeting you Debbie – such an inspiration. We all have our own roller-coasters to ride but as long as we hold on we will survive. I wish you every happiness, health and success for 2016! Looking forward to reading more of your posts.

  • Reply Molly Stevens January 3, 2016 at 22:17

    Glad you have adjusted to retirement in a postitive way. Finding a creative outlet is a big help I suspect. I haven’t retired yet but moving towards it. So sorry for your losses. Congratulations on your lovely blog and best wishes for 2016.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric January 4, 2016 at 10:54

      Thanks Molly it wasn’t easy after the first flush of not having to be anywhere at any given time died down. However, my message to others is to plan our retirement and that is part of why I started the blog. I’m pleased you like my blog and hope you visit again.

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