#ActiveApril Health & Wellness

5 top tips for Feeling Alive After 50

April 16, 2019
5 tips for Feeling Alive After 50

What I love about my next #ActiveApril guest, is her ability to always find the positive. Even when life knocks her down, Leslie Roberts Clingan from Once Upon A Time, Happily Ever After, has the ability to take it all in her stride with a beautiful smile and inner strength that I admire. I knew that Leslie, would be perfect to write about Feeling Alive After 50 and today she shares her 5 tips with us so we can all Get Active & Feel Alive. Don’t forget to connect with Leslie through her prompts at the end of her article.

5 tips for Feeling Alive After 50

So honored to have been asked by my Australian ‘cousin’ Sue to share some of the things I do to feel alive.  I retired early and reluctantly at the age of 55.  After floundering around for close to a year, and recuperating from cervical spine surgery, I began taking steps to feel alive again.  Here are some of the things I started doing and continue to do today to live it up.

1.Learning something new, trying something outside your comfort zone. 

I write a monthly post about ways I stretch myself.  Sometimes my activities can be very simple like enjoying a restaurant lunch by myself, trying on and buying some super skinny jeans.  Other times, I push myself giant leaps beyond my comfort zone – attending a One Sisterhood women’s event at my church without knowing anyone there. 

Either way, though, I am always glad I tried something new.  Picking up a $1 jigsaw puzzle at the dollar store to work while watching TV at night.  Learning a foreign language, even if you never really speak it formally, can be a great way to stretch your mind.  Taking up a craft or revisiting a hobby you once loved but had little time for.  For more information, click here.

It’s so important to S T R E T C H ourselves. 

2. Moving

As in raising your heart rate.  Not boxing up your belongings and changing addresses!  I may grumble all the way to the gym but I always leave with a smile and a sense of accomplishment.  With my heart pumping and my muscles letting me know they are still there…if just a little bit sore!  But your movement can come in many forms:  dancing, walking, skipping, swimming, swinging, hiking – are some of my favorite ways to move.  Learn more here about how raising your heart rate can help you to thrive and feel alive.

3. Dressing everyday

Dressing everyday.  And I don’t mean sweat pants and an old tee.  Putting on something pretty.  Putting on something that makes you feel pretty, too, can change your mindset.  Fixing up is an important form of self-care.  Treat yourself to a new top, some inexpensive costume jewelry, a scarf.  Accessories can breathe new life to favorite oldies but goodies hanging in your closet.  A new shade of lipstick. 

You don’t have to spend a lot of money to look put together and fashionable.  When I retired, I stumbled across the Get Your Pretty On capsule wardrobe challenges and they became a huge reason why I got up and got dressed in the morning rather than hanging out in my housecoat all day!!  Learn more about them, here.  Just recently, I bought these lacy ankle-high hose and felt so feminine wearing them with my heels and booties.  Little things! Find out more about the importance of getting dressed every day, here and here

4. Getting fresh air and sunshine

Incorporating exercise with fresh air and sunshine is especially beneficial.  El Paso aka The Sun City boasts about 300 days of sunshine a year.  It would be difficult for me to live somewhere else because I have grown so accustomed to sunny days. 

This winter, though, I began incorporating the use of  Total Body Enhancement machine when I visit the gym.  Weight loss and better-looking skin are just some of the benefits touted by this light therapy treatment.  I haven’t used it enough to notice a big difference in either area yet but I do feel mentally and emotionally uplifted after a session of light therapy.  And after being outdoors in the fresh air and sunshine.   For more information, visit here.

5. Listening to music

I don’t do this enough but when I do, it makes me feel alive from the top of my head to the tip of my twinkle toes.  My PC (Prince Charming – Paul Clingan) often listen to music on road trips.  He has a wonderful singing voice (me, not so much) and can sing about anything.  We crank up the oldies but goodies from our younger years and sing along. 

On a recent trip to Washington state, we had a rental car with Sirius radio.  What fun!  You can select stations that play music from certain decades or certain artists or certain genres.  As each song started, we would share where we were when the song became popular and guess what year it was released.  My youngest daughter gave me a record player for my birthday a few years ago.  What a fabulous gift!  I play my favorite LPs while cleaning the house, ironing, crafting. 

Music just has a way of lifting my spirits…and making me want to dance!!  They have live music at my mother’s senior living facility several times a month.  Music just makes you feel alive.  Read more about the benefits, here.


I know I promised to share only 5 tips for feeling alive but I am wordy!!  So allow me a bonus.

Do something for someone else. 

Sometimes taking the focus off yourself can help you feel alive and connected to the wide world. 


  • Find a way to be around young people…working with the youth at church, volunteering your talents at a school. 
  • Get a pet or volunteer at your local animal shelter. 
  • Purchase an inexpensive aquarium, even a fish bowl.  And a fish!  We have adopted 2 kitties. 

Being responsible for something or someone other than yourself can inspire a sense of purpose.

Even a little gardening can make you feel alive.  My 92 year-old mom has orchids.  I can’t grow them to save my soul but she has a masterful green thumb.  They don’t require much attention but bring beauty to her world.  I am trying to grow succulents at my house.  The less attention they get, the better!  Ha!

Pay it forward.  Help someone less fortunate than you. 

Visit here or here for more information.

Meet Leslie

In what felt like the blink of an eye, I have gone from full-time wife to my sweet husband, hands-on mom to my two beautiful daughters and elementary school librarian to a retired, empty nester with lots of time on my hands. Join me on my journey to rediscover who I am. Always glad to make new friends with whom to share this new adventure.

Connect with Leslie






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  • Reply Samantha Smith April 16, 2019 at 17:47

    Oh it’s great to meet Leslie! I agree with everything she has suggested. An inspirational lady for sure ?

    • Reply Leslie Susan Clingan April 17, 2019 at 06:34

      Thank you, sweet Samantha. I was so honored to be invited to write for this series on Sue’s blog. She is one amazing gal.

  • Reply Nancy Dobbins April 16, 2019 at 23:20

    Hi Sue,
    Love that Leslie is featured here…she always has got such great ideas and is open about posting what is working for her.
    You know I sooo agree with the volunteering piece. Found really good benefits for volunteering (for both volunteer AND recipients!) scientifically supported when I was taking my online course, The Science of Happiness.

    • Reply Leslie Susan Clingan April 17, 2019 at 06:38

      Hey Nancy!! Thank you so much for your kind words. Glad that you can vouch for the benefits of volunteering. I need to follow my own advice and do more of it, myself! Interested in The Science of Happiness. Where can I learn more? So grateful to Sue for the invitation to guest post on her beautiful blog.

  • Reply Bren April 17, 2019 at 07:05

    Hi Leanne! Hi Leslie, nice to meet you! These are spot on tips, girl! I need to MOVE more often then I should but since the warm weather has come back, I’ll be more active. So many women I speak with feel that 50 and over is like a death sentence! It’s crazy! I choose to embrace the aging process, all of it. For me, it’s time for reinvent myself into something even better than I was before. I really appreciate all your tips, Leslie! Great guest, Leanne!

  • Reply Natalie April 17, 2019 at 07:10

    Hi Leslie – All very good tips that make us feel alive and positive! I try to do them every day, too. I look forward to our next link-up. Have a wonderful week! Thanks, Sue, for sharing Leslie. #MLSTL

  • Reply Min @ Write of the Middle April 17, 2019 at 08:46

    So lovely to meet you Leslie and thanks Sue for introducing us! I agree with all your tips! I need to listen to music and have fun more. I do pilates 3 times a week and they’re introducing some zumba and a few other classes as well. I might give them a try – that will bring some music, dance (kinda), laughs and fun into my life (as well as some cardio). Have a great week ladies! xo

  • Reply Miriam April 17, 2019 at 08:47

    How wonderful to meet Leslie and I love all of the tips she shared to live a whole and fulfilling life. I can relate to so many of them, being outside in sunshine, enjoying nature and dancing up a storm! A very inspiring lady. Thanks for featuring her Sue. xx

  • Reply Jennifer Jones April 17, 2019 at 09:40

    Great to meet Leslie. Thanks for introducing Leslie as a guest Sue. I enjoyed reading these tips and especially agree with your bonus tip.

  • Reply Victoria April 17, 2019 at 10:19

    Very nice tips and I do most of them other than the step out of my comfort zone. I have been working on that one for a long time. lol

  • Reply Terri Webster Schrandt April 17, 2019 at 10:45

    I love seeing lovely Leslie here, Sue! Glad I could catch up with both of you on #MLSTL today! Getting out of my comfort zone is a tough one for me and I feel my teeth grinding at the mere thought of it! But the others, music, sunshine, mindful dressing and exercise make for a happy day!

  • Reply Patrick Weseman April 17, 2019 at 11:35

    Thanks for the all the tips you have been sharing. Very nice. I am learning a lot. #MLSTL

  • Reply Retirement Reflections April 17, 2019 at 12:30

    These are all top notch tips, Leslie. I especially like #6!

  • Reply Johanna Castro April 17, 2019 at 12:42

    Great to meet Leslie and thank you Sue. Yes, I agree with all of these – and getting out in the sunshine and moving always makes me feel happier even if I don’t particularly want to be active. I’m always loth to get out of my comfort zone, but the sense of achievement is generally really good. Great tips! #MLSTL and Shared on SM

  • Reply Denyse Whelan April 17, 2019 at 13:56

    That was lovely to read and I was nodding in agreement to almost all. I am still not as active as I could be so deliberately walking is becoming a part of my afternoon now the Australian summer has passed. I learned the value of dressing every day and going somewhere for coffee as I came out of recovery stage from my first big mouth cancer surgery. I started at the end of Oct 2017 and am still going strong. I love it and it connects me every day on-line and when I am out I get to chat to people too.
    Thanks Sue for sharing Leslie’s story.
    Denyse #MLSTL

  • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au April 17, 2019 at 14:57

    Hi Leslie – lovely to see you guesting on Sue’s blog (and also being part of MLSTL by default!) Each of your tips resonated with me and they’re so simple and yet each has an element for making us better and brighter – so important at this great stage of life.
    And Hi Sue – thanks for co-hosting another great party and I’ve shared on my SM xx
    PS: If we’re sisters of the heart, does that make Leslie my cousin too?

  • Reply Christie Hawkes April 17, 2019 at 21:43

    Two of my favorite ladies joining forces–I love it! These five (plus) things perfectly describe what makes me feel alive. I couldn’t have said it better (or even as well) myself. Thank you for inspiring me to include more of each of these in my day today. #MLSTL

  • Reply Cheryl April 17, 2019 at 22:21

    What a wonderful, positive woman! I’m afraid I just lack the energy to do some of these things – and lack of sunlight is a huge problem where I live, a major contributor to my negativity and depression. Your post gave me hope and cheer!! Thank you! Visiting from MLSTL and pinned. 🙂

  • Reply Nancy Dobbins April 18, 2019 at 00:29

    Hi Leslie,
    The Science of Happiness was an online MOOC course that I took. You can read about it at my blog, definingthirdage.com…I did several posts. It is from UCBerkeley and is FREE!

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 19, 2019 at 08:50

      Hi Nancy, I’ve been concentrating on Life Coaching and Nutrition but this course is definitely on my list. I enjoyed reading your posts about it. x

  • Reply Nancy Dobbins April 18, 2019 at 00:37

    And shared in SM…gotta love #MLSTL

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 19, 2019 at 08:50

      thanks so much Nancy! We love having you part of #MLSTL. xx

  • Reply Michele April 18, 2019 at 05:06

    The advice about getting dressed is good. I need to do a better job of that. I always seem to wear something old and ratty as if I am saving my decent clothes for when I leave the house. Really, I need to up my game at home. I know I would feel better about myself!

  • Reply Agnes April 18, 2019 at 06:56

    Great tips for every body!! I have weeks where I let one or more of those things slide and I really feel it! great incentive to get my mojo back!
    My current commitments seem conducive to living your tips!! Yay!

  • Reply Amy Johnson April 18, 2019 at 07:15

    It’s so wonderful to see you over here Leslie! All your points are spot on, especially the fresh air and sunshine one…that’s a hard one for us Wisconsinites to get in our long 6 month winters! We all get so depressed in the winter. This year was a real hard one for we had so much snow and so many hardships from the snow.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 19, 2019 at 08:49

      Hi Amy, I live in Brisbane, so sunshine year round. I would love to see snow but I’m sure the novelty wears off after living with it each year. Leslie is such a firecracker I love her. x

  • Reply Christine April 18, 2019 at 22:09

    Yes, yes, and yes. Sometimes you read a blog, and you nod along with everything. I was nodding. Nice to meet you, Leslie. Following you around a bit now.

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 19, 2019 at 08:39

      Leslie is such a spark of joy to me, Christine. No matter what is happening in her life she always has a smile. x

  • Reply Debbie April 19, 2019 at 07:24

    It was so good to read about Leslie here Sue, both of you are inspirational women. I agree with your suggestions and always love getting out in the fresh air and sunshine. I’ve also enjoyed learning how your PC got his name. I’m following you already and always enjoy reading your take on life. #mlstl

    • Reply Sue Loncaric April 19, 2019 at 08:38

      Hi Deb, we aren’t sure but Leslie and I might be distant cousins! Some of my ancestors moved to the US during the Civil War and we both had maiden names of Roberts so who knows? Yes I love how PC got his name. Leslie is such a character xx

  • Reply Pradeep April 19, 2019 at 22:58

    Hi Leslie, This is tailor-made for me: recently I turned 54! Very good tips.
    It’s extremely important to keep oneself active physically, emotionally, and intellectually.
    And thanks, Sue, for having Leslie as the guest blogger.

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