What is the #1 reason why we fail to make positive changes in our life? Keep reading and I’ll reveal the answer and see if you guessed correctly.
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Making changes in our life can be daunting and there will be times when we just can’t do it. We fail and then fall into a loop of trying, failing, giving up, trying, failing giving up, instead of examining what prevented us from succeeding in our goal.
So, what is the #1 reason why we fail?
The answer is YOURSELF.
We are our own saboteurs when it comes to making changes in our life. Sure we can use all the excuses under the sun and blame others for our lack of success. BUT IT IS OUR LIMITING BELIEFS, SELF-DOUBT AND FEAR THAT TRULY HOLDS US BACK
You aren’t alone and it is a normal behavioural response. We are are own worst critic and set the bar usually higher for ourselves than we do for others.
Thoughts, emotions and our beliefs – our Inner World – determine our success in life. They way we think and feel drives us to achieve our goals in all areas of our life.
How then, can we persevere and achieve our life goals and recognise when these goals are not working for us?
Can we have the courage to change course and adapt to a new path?
4 ways to succeed using Emotional Agility
In EMOTIONAL AGILITY: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life Susan David, Ph.D. a renowned psychologist and expert on emotions, happiness, and achievement, draws on more than twenty years of research to show that emotionally agile people are not immune to stresses and setbacks.
Emotionally agile people have the ability to examine and connect with their feelings. They then use this knowledge to adapt, establish their values and make the necessary changes to keep moving positively forward in life.
Emotional agility is a process that enables us to navigate life’s twists and turns with self-acceptance, clear-sightedness, and an open mind. The process isn’t about ignoring difficult emotions and thoughts. It’s about holding those emotions and thoughts loosely, facing them courageously and compassionately, and then moving past them to ignite change in your life.
In EMOTIONAL AGILITY, Dr. David shares four key concepts:
When faced with difficult thoughts or emotions we tend to want to push them away and over emphasize ‘positive thinking’.
Showing Up means facing our thoughts, emotions and behaviours head on rather than avoiding them. Willingly accepting them and being open to how you are feeling and why.
Step Out of yourself and observe your emotions and your thoughts from a distance. Learn to see yourself filled with possibilities rather than feeling everything is preordained.
Walk Your Why
Dr John Demartini in his interview Discovering Your Values and being True to yourself, explains that our core values should be aligned with the life we want not what someone else wants for us.
What does your life demonstrate?
Values are what you place importance on in your life. If you are too busy to do something, then you aren’t placing any value on that area of your life and you need to remove it or make the time for it.
Make small changes to mindset, motivation and habits that are aligned with your values.
Once you find the balance and you are living your authentic self you feel energised and motivated.
In the link below, Dr David gives more insight into her book and also Emotional Agility.
Do you let self-doubt, fear, anger or your failings limit you and hold you back? What is one step you can take today to change that?