Last Thursday, I felt strange. I had started my day with Day 8 of the 30 Day Yoga Challenge with Adriene through YouTube. It was a ‘Moving Meditation’ which I hadn’t actually done before. Holding poses for a little longer and trying to clear the mind and focus our thoughts within. After the 30 minute practice I felt wonderful so why an hour later was I feeling flat, frustrated and BLAH???
I did something that I rarely do – I posted how I was feeling in my Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyond – Let’s Thrive Facebook Group. The post was –
‘Hi everyone! You will be happy to know I’m human – ‘I’m struggling :(‘
As soon as I posted I felt like I had shared more than I should have. I’m usually the one who is encouraging and motivating others but on this particular day I actually said how I was feeling without the bravado or the ‘brave face’.
I have to tell you that I love this group of wonderful women! I was overwhelmed with the positive reaction of the group and messages of support and virtual hugs. Members reminded me that
‘we all have those days’
and others reminded me
‘that it was good for me to share my feelings out loud and that we all need to be honest and open about our feelings’.
All responses I would have given other people who were in the same situation. Of course, I’m much better at giving advice to others and not always taking my own advice!
What resonated with me most of all was that most of us don’t express how we are feeling if we are having a bad day. That is not healthy is it?
Is that because we feel we are a failure? Life isn’t always like the ‘perfect lives of others’ we see on social media WE ALL HAVE BAD DAYS – that is part of being human!
On reflection I know that my feelings are due mainly to the stress my husband and I are feeling as we de-clutter and prepare my MIL’s home for sale. It is overwhelming as she has literally kept everything she has ever owned plus it is an emotional time for anyone selling the family home.
It is timely that this month’s Wellness Wednesday theme is to share our Tips to manage stress.
Stress is a part of life and research suggests that some stress can be good for us. That is the stress which psychologists refer to as ‘Eustress’ . Stress that we feel when we are excited and there is no threat or fear. This type of stress helps us to feel alive. Mostly, though we experience and associate stress and anxiety with tension and feeling overwhelmed.
So how can we manage stress?
3 stress busters to help you Thrive through the tough times
Be Brave – Tell it like it is and ask for support
Never underestimate the power of friendship and support. Sometimes we are experiencing tough times. We need to know that it is okay to reach out and ask for support. Holding back and trying to cope alone isn’t always the right thing to do. We aren’t complaining we are just asking for help. The wonderful thing is you don’t have to cope alone – friends, family or even professionals are more than happy to support you. You just have to ask. Remember there is no shame or failure in asking for help. It takes courage to admit we need help so Be brave – ask for support!
Take time out during the day
When we think of taking time out we think of a holiday or short break. However, we can reduce our daily stress by taking time during the day to breathe and to relax. Some people take this time to meditate, journal or pray. Others just take some deep breaths to bring clarity.
Dance, walk, run, swim, Zumba, – just Move! Moving and keeping active is the best natural way to reduce stress. I know that if I’m feeling anxious I go for a run or walk and feel so much better after being outside enjoying nature and moving my body.
Need more ideas? You might like to also read 5-ways-to-lower-your-stress-in-one-minute/
How do you manage your stress? Do you struggle on with a brave face or do you ask for support?
Let’s Keep Sizzling!