Are you constantly dieting? Struggling with weight and self-esteem? An important ingredient to Ageing Well and Living Well is self-love and acceptance. If we don’t love the person we are, then it is difficult to gain respect from others and more importantly to be happy and contented. We’ve all been there and many of us still have self-doubt and lack self-confidence which can hold us back from living a fulfilled life.
My next guest is Kathy Marris, from 50 Shades of Age. I’ve known Kathy through the blogging world for nearly 5 years and although we have only met in person a couple of times, we both share a love of living by the ocean and travel. Kathy shares her story on how she has made peace with herself and the ageing process by following 3 simple philosophies. I’m sure her story will resonate with many of us.
3 simple tips for Ageing Well & Living Well
With so much pressure applied through the media and the misconception that we have to look younger than our years, is it any wonder that we feel inadequate as we get older. We are constantly barraged with images of women in their 50s or 60s looking trim, taut and terrific. However the truth is that once menopause hits us and we start to see the signs of age, it can be very difficult to keep the signs of ageing at bay.
During my life I’ve always struggled with my weight and I’m constantly on a diet. Yes, even in my early sixties I still seem to think that I’d look better if I lost a bit of weight!
In the past I’ve even considered having cosmetic procedures. However, as I’ve got older I’ve finally come to the realization that I don’t really need to take such drastic measures to look younger. I’ve learnt to accept myself just as I am!
My tips for ageing well and living well are very simple:
1. Learn to love the body you’re in.
I’m short and curvy and even though I exercise regularly and watch what I eat I still struggle to keep my weight under control. What I’ve learnt is that this is my size and shape so I’ve stopped comparing myself to everyone else who may be taller and slimmer than me.
What’s most important to me is that I’m healthy and still able to move well. I’m reasonably flexible and I can walk 10 kilometres without too much effort. I feel well most days. My hair and skin is healthy and my teeth are good. I also don’t take any prescribed medications.
So instead of focusing on how I look in the mirror, I tell myself that I’m strong and healthy. I’m able to do a lot of physical things other women my age cannot do. So I’m truly grateful for my body and health.
2. Challenge yourself in new ways.
Most women of my age are retired from work or are only working part-time. I retired last year and immediately set myself a goal of what I wanted to achieve in my retirement. I certainly wasn’t going to sit at home and watch daytime TV. I had a whole list of things I wanted to do!
Probably my biggest goal is to travel whilst I’m still able. I’m actually working my way through a long list of desired travel destinations.
Some of my other goals were to work for a charity, learn to play Lawn Bowls, take on a couple of long walks, take a short course in Photography, attend Yoga or Pilates on a regular basis, spend time with my granddaughter and attend some Cooking Classes.
3. Let go of negativity and regrets.
I believe a lot of people spend far too much time dwelling on the past and become bitter and twisted. If there is something or someone in your past that has made you feel this way you need to let it (or them) go.
Rid yourself of negative and toxic people, move on, and focus on the good things in your life.
I’ve certainly had to do this on a couple of occasions and I can tell you it makes a big difference in achieving a state of happiness in your life. I generally steer away from confrontation and drama, and I try to live a peaceful life. More importantly I make time for myself and I’ve learnt to say no to situations that may ignite drama.
Kathy Marris is a 62 year old who has been blogging at 50shadesofage for the past 6 years. She is married with two adult children and lives on the Tweed Coast of New South Wales. She enjoys living life to the fullest and loves to keep fit and active by maintaining a healthy diet and exercising regularly. Some of her interests include reading, movies, travelling, cooking and blogging! Kathy works part-time as a freelance writer but her real passion is travelling and photographing brilliant destinations both within Australia and overseas and writing about it.
Kathy commenced the blog as a platform to encourage and inspire women of her age. After reaching that milestone age of 50, with kids leaving the nest and feeling unemployable, Kathy felt a big void in her life. It was with this in mind that she decided to start up 50 Shades Of Age – a website where she could reach out to her sisters and tell them that their lives could be so much more. Kathy’s desire is to be the voice for the new-age 50 something year olds to empower and motivate them to travel and see the world!