Do you have times when you feel that there is just too much going on in your life? I felt this way last Monday. I looked at my calendar and every day had several appointments or commitments and I just felt overwhelmed. Also, during the week it was R U Okay? day.
Although we should check in with our mental and emotional health daily. Reach out and ask family or friends who might be struggling if they are okay when we see signs rather than just waiting for one day each year, R U Okay day does spotlight mental health and that is a good thing.
Checking in with myself I found I wasn’t doing brilliantly. Don’t get me wrong, I thrive on being busy as most of you will know from reading my blog. I love being involved in life BUT not if it is becoming a burden rather than enjoyment.
I’ve been working on the direction I want to take WLWA50, what I want to offer you all to Live Well plus other projects with some friends I’m in collaboration with. I found myself looking at online courses, signing up for Wellness Summits which meant hours of video presentations – all valuable information but no time to sit, watch and appreciate the learnings. I have been running #30daysofhealthandwellness in the Facebook Group which included 3 inter-active interviews this week. I conducted an interview for my podcast and an interview where I was a guest on LiveFitNow! plus I instructed two classes in the Strong Healthy Women Virtual Studio. Phew!
I also feel I haven’t been spending as much quality time with my darling husband as I would like to. Plus my 94 year old MIL has been in hospital and now back at her aged care home in quarantine for two weeks. We are concerned as she is very social and are maintaining daily phone contact to help her through this challenging time. More stress and anxiety to add to the mix of life.
What happened as a result of all this activity?
My mind became so full of information, ideas and life in general that I couldn’t think straight. I was anxious and stressed.
What did I do?
I reached out for help and took a deep breath. Although I’m a Life Coach and Health & Wellness Coach I still need to ask for advice and help at times. We don’t always take our own advice, so reaching out is important.
2 questions to ask yourself when life overwhelms you
I turned to my daughter who is an Executive Coach for advice. She asked me to consider two questions:
- What things are you doing that don’t directly align with your purpose?
- And if they all do, what isn’t energising you at the moment?
Two great questions which we can all ponder when life just becomes too much.
After some thought I took action.
- I prioritised what I needed to do and postponed or cancelled appointments that weren’t urgent
- I reviewed my purpose and as per Rachel’s advice crossed off my list things that weren’t aligned with my purpose or that weren’t serving me well.
- I took time out to spend time with my husband. I got lost in a book that was easy to read and was pure escapism.
- I walked onto my balcony and looked at the ocean, taking some deep slow breaths
- I assessed my core values and what works for me in life.